In this clip, a Black daughter shares concerns about having a white partner who can help support in this moment. She comments about growing up with a learned preference for whiteness and how deeply problematic it is for a person of color to prefer whiteness. She is reflecting on the impact of this preference now that she has a white partner and what it means for them to be quiet and to give her space to be big. Silence is important for listening and understanding and, as the daughter notes, a sense of safety.
Allowing the space for us to be big and then we take that space.
